• Kyrgizion@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    If it really was a choice I would have become gay decades ago. Gay people seem to know how to have fun.

  • _____@lemm.ee
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    2 months ago

    So true actually. I don’t dislike women or anything I just wish I could be asexual or something. Women are just too pretty.

    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
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      2 months ago

      I’m ace, but I still desire male companionship, but, christ, I don’t want to date men. It’s never simple, and it makes me mad. Like… why I gotta be like this? 🫠

  • PugJesus@lemmy.worldOP
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    2 months ago

    Men are like Pomeranians and Chihuahuas - some are great, but most of them are poorly socialized. My condolences to everyone who has to deal with us.

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      2 months ago

      Nah, not me. I’m a husky: smart enough to get myself into trouble, not smart enough to get myself out of it.

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        Sometimes the qualities that make them bad for me. I know I shouldn’t want them and should just move on, but it really isn’t a choice 😣

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            Being socially dominant, flirty, irreverent, capable of being mean in dealing with opponents, yet having a softer side that prevents him from being totally awful. You know that he’s not a great person sometimes, but he’s also really sweet and kind enough of the time. You might know that he probably doesn’t like you and will be awful to you if you try for him, but logic and reasoning can’t overcome stupid desire.

            I’m normally able to keep such people at arms length when I’m not attracted to them in that way. I get the most out of the relationship by knowing when to step away. Such friendships can be more fruitful than friendships with people who are far nicer, but if I fall for them, it becomes a hellish experience. Idk why, but bad boys just hit different :/

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      2 months ago

      She’s bi. She’s just mad that Bruce has the whole package and it can’t be denied. Looks, brains, systemic evil amounts of her favorite thing (money), fun nighttime hobbies.

  • yuri@pawb.social
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    i’m pan and it took me YEARS to realize that just finding people attractive independent of sex/gender wasn’t something everyone could relate to.

    like seriously, child me was walking through this world thinking that “being gay is a choice” just meant you decided you wanted to date all the dudes you already found attractive. i remember realizing wtf homophobia even was and i was SO SAD.

  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Honestly I’m more clueless about my sexuality than ever. I think I’m more attracted to women than men, but a healthy dose of gender envy makes that difficult to quantify. I kind of… just aren’t attracted to actual people by default? I kinda beat the ability to have romantic and sexual feelings towards people out of myself because trauma and depression, I kind of have to actually try to feel them. Because of that, it took me a really long time to realize my attraction to men. Well, that and gay porns never done anything for me (because I’m not gay, despite liking men. Gender identity stuff). I’m still sometimes afraid I’m not actually attracted to men and am just too damaged where relationships and intimacy with women are concerned and am desperate for another outlet for those desires. Realistically though, I have romantic feelings for a guy and enjoy having sex with him, and if that’s not attraction I don’t know what is. I’m definitely not ace, though, I’m a very sexual person, masturbating a ton and using dildos a ton. Things get more complicated though, my (few) sexual experiences with women/afab and fem presenting people have been pretty uncomfortable, but I think that’s a gender dysphoria using my dick thing, not a partners gender thing. Idfk, I’m a giant ball of overthinking and anxiety