make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don’t like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware
make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don’t like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware
But seriously, no offense meant at all. As someone who grew up “in the time period” in southern California the term “dude” is inescapable, regardless of gender. Trying to remove that from my vocabulary would be akin to removing “whoa” or “wow”… (I have zero issues with pronoun preferences)
I too have had words I majorly disliked… So I get it. Some of them I’ve grown away from and they don’t matter. Some still do. Like tummy… Ugh tummy is such a difficult word for me.
Also, in case the image reference is missed, please give The Big Lebowski a view. It’s not necessarily for everyone but it’s such a gem.
Florida for me, but same. The women refer to other women as dude.
Shoutout !achievers@lebowski.social
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Ah it was so unbelievably difficult to try to remove from my language too. I was playing a game with a mtf, I asked tbh and she said she didn’t mind. However I tried to stop doing it anyway. I failed misurably tbh. That being said I had no problem saying she so… I think it’s the case of being in a strategic scenario and not knowing who I’m talking to.
In my experience it really matters how it’s used. If you call someone a dude (that dude over there) it’s generally seen as gendered. If you use it like ‘dude that’s so rad’, it’s not gendered and is more of a soft expletive.
However, it still causes dysphoria for some folks, so when I’m unsure I’ll ask and then respect their preference.