• mysoulishome@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Shoutout to Facebook for reminding my wife every year of the day her dad died so she comes home from work crying. 10 years. Every December. 😥

    Fuck

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      11 months ago

      I agree the other comment is a bit crass and small minded. It sounds like a very painful situation.

      But… for ten (10) years your wife is terrorized by a website on a specific day…? Sounds like it could have been mitigated no?

      • don’t go on facebook
      • don’t go to work (if your job intrinsically involves using facebook or you just can’t resist it)
      • have someone triage/screen your facebook on this specific day — delete/hide the post

      my condolences to your wife for the loss of her father.

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        11 months ago

        Yes, you get it. Speaking as a software engineer, users need to adapt their behavior to accommodate the product, not the other way around.

        It’s impossible to account for every fanciful scenario or ethical edge case - remember, software exists in a vacuum of pure logic. So if a braindead algorithm dredges up a painful memory of yours every year and tactlessly features it alongside a lighthearted quip from the marketing team, it’s nobody’s fault.

        Well, it’s your fault for not avoiding Facebook on that day. What I mean is, it’s not my fault and it’s not Facebook’s fault, whatever that means. It’s just the computer doing its thing.

        Just kidding!!! I am using sarcasm to express my contempt for this mentality! It is correct to criticize tech companies for catastrophic UX failures! I believe it is in very poor taste to offer workarounds in reply to an anecdote like this!

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          11 months ago

          remember, software exists in a vacuum of pure logic

          You got me fooled until that line. Then I read the “just kidding”.

          I think that you’re being spot on; that’s a lot like plenty software developers handle ethical and moral matters, by not doing it at all, pretending that “its just maths lol” without acknowledging that, ultimately, software is made for people, not the opposite.

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      11 months ago

      Why are you or your wife still using facebook? The party has been over for 10+ years, it’s time move on from college.

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        11 months ago

        So…this is very difficult for us and I don’t understand why you felt it was necessary to say that. It would be great if you could mind your own business or just say nice things when someone talks about a family member passing away. 😊

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          11 months ago

          Sounds like you need some parasocial engagement. Let your friends at Facebook and Reddit remind you of all the good times you’ve had on their site. You have given yourself no other option.

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            11 months ago

            [Speaking as a mod]

            Please, back off. You’re being obnoxious (rule #4) and rude (rule #1), by insisting on uncalled advice even after another user told you to “mind your own business”.