Indifference can cause more harm than hate, just food for thought

Why is it so hard for some people to just say “ok” and move on because it’s important to the other person. ESPECIALLY if “it’s no big deal” then just do it and see how much more your NB and trans friends feel comfortable

You can’t both bridge your current router and use it for WiFi AP because of the hierarchy of the network. You’ll need either a compatible AP-capable WiFi radio in your be router (hard to find, limited compatibility, I think you might top out at WiFi 4e (ac1350) in terms of what hardware is available.

Alternatively, you can use a dedicated access point alongside your new router which is easier and will get you better, more up to date, technology

Get yourself a decent router capable of running OpenWRT, which will allow you to set up vlan’s for your lab, and (I would also recommend) another separate vlan for your IoT and other “smart” devices.

The TP-Link Archer C7 is old but reliable and has a lot of open source support.

If you’re feeling more adventurous You could also build your own router with any computer that’s got two or more Ethernet ports using PFSense, Firewall-NG, or IPFire