The universal design ideal, is that, an ideal. Hopefully we strike an appropriate balance between different people’s needs. I think recognizing that some things are more challenging for some people than others is good. There should be reasonable responsibility to anticipate other’s needs and advocacy for one’s own needs.
I’ll give you my own example as a person with a disability. Have I been late to meetings/appointment “because of my disability”? Sure. I do plan to have enough time to make it work but that doesn’t always happens because of unforeseen issues that come up for me that would not for most others. Do I consider that the fault of the others involved? Of course not, let be practical.
On the other hand when possible, which has been 100% of the time since March 2020, I essentially demand virtual meetings now because my computer is the most accessible environment for me in the world and put me on far more even ground as others.
That is excellent. They better be careful or I may become hopeful.