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It’s definitively manipulative, but people on the internet like to take something like that and then sprint to the conclusion that the person exhibiting the behavior is entirely knowledgeable about what they’re doing and is nefariously doing it on purpose in order to control the person and keep them locked in a position of weakness.
A lot of people exhibit behavior like this because they feel scared or upset and don’t know how to healthily express or resolve it, or were taught by unhealthy homelife that the behavior is normal, even if it’s not. I think people in the comments immediately rushing to leave her and anyone like her behind will either find it hard to maintain a relationship, or should count their lucky stars if they’re with someone that is completely healthy and knowledgeable about negative human behaviors and willing (and able) to fix it.
That post could be perceived as “I went to no stupid questions and then asserted that all questions are too stupid for me” so you’re sort of running against the ethos of the forum, you can definitely ask that question, it just has to be in a more general question area where your post isn’t openly running against the idea of the forum you’re posting in.