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  • While I don’t disagree, I have a point to make.

    Recently watched a home movie of our kids when they are little (18 years ago), so ages between 3 & 8.

    It was a little horrifying to hear the absolute despair in our voices as my wife and I kept asking one kid after the other, “please stop.”

    Three kids, all desperately trying to get ALL the attention. It’s amazing the five of us survived.

    I don’t particularly recall the day the video was made. Hearing our voices, it sounds like we were just completely past the breaking point. Yet, consider: that was a moment that we considered adorable enough to record forever. Watching it now, they were adorable. However, it sounds like we were dying inside without realizing it.

    I hear the same voices in every video. I love my kids and I love being a parent, but it’s amazing looking back how much that and all the other demands on us was just absolutely crushing the life out of us.



  • One of my teachers in high school (around 1986 or 1987) said that the Russian people were incapable of freedom. He said they wanted & needed an authoritarian ruler.

    At the time I thought he was just buying into propaganda, but I’ve been thinking he may have been right.

    But then, it’s starting to look like a huge portion of Americans don’t value their own freedom either. At least, they seem to be willing to trade their freedom for ensuring that the people they don’t like will suffer.



  • NABDad@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneThomas rule
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    5 months ago

    I don’t know about that. I certainly think I’m right when I do something, but I have a healthy dose of imposter syndrome, so I tend to do a lot of testing before hand, and when something goes wrong I assume it’s my fault until I can prove otherwise.

    It always seems strange to me when people need to be proven wrong. Usually when I’m wrong, I’m the person who figures it out, because I always assume problems are my fault.

    The weird thing is, this leads to an enormous amount of trust in me by others, which I find exceedingly uncomfortable.


  • NABDad@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneThomas rule
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    5 months ago

    I have, and others have as well. It doesn’t look like the situation can be improved through the chain of command.

    Although, I heard through the grapevine that he was written up by the director of a department we support. Honestly, given what I know about that person, I’m surprised he survived that. However, he did.


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    5 months ago

    I recently had a meeting with my supervisor, and he was complaining about how a previous meeting ran over time and repeatedly complaining about how some former team members who moved to a different team caused the meeting to run over time because they wouldn’t just agree to do what he asked, but kept arguing with him about why it isn’t a good idea.

    I had to interrupt him to point out that the meeting we were in, in which he was complaining about the previous meeting running over time because of the previous team members, had just run over time, and they weren’t in the meeting this time.

    I don’t think he liked what I said, but he ended the meeting, and that’s what I wanted to happen.

    He did my annual review three days later and complained that I don’t work well with others, and specifically indicated that I don’t work well with him.

    He’s the only supervisor who has ever complained about me in the 36 years I’ve been working.

    We’ve had two people retire last year directly because of him. There is another person who refuses to have a meeting with him unless it is recorded.





  • NABDad@lemmy.worldtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.worldWhat is wage theft exactly?
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    6 months ago

    I am also aware of a manager at my job who got fired for playing those games. Fired and security-escorted out.

    Knowing the department director and how she felt about the employees, she was probably enraged when she found out what the manager under her was doing.

    Here it’s very difficult to fire an employee after the probationary period, but managers are relatively easy to fire. There’s a three strikes rule for managers. Whenever a PIA manager starts being extra nice to everyone, you know they just got reported to HR for a second time.

    Screwing with time cards in the U.S. is extra double bad because of federal law.

    If the employee can prove the manager has done it, they’ve proven that their employer is both guilty of wage theft, and also that they’ve destroyed the records showing how much time you actually worked. So usually the employees get to say how much they are owed, and the employer has no way to argue against it.

    If I recall correctly, if it was an honest mistake, the employer has to pay back two times what was owed. If it was intentional, then they have to pay back three times what was owed.

    There aren’t many worker protections in the U.S., but that particular set of laws is ok. Of course, there could be additional protections in state or local laws.

    Edit: clarification and typo.