I feel this, but more along the line of chosen ignorance rather than actual stupidity. Either a new topic us overwhelming or they worry\fear they’ll get it “wrong”. Also, being from the south, where so much has been politicized, they fear the tribal back lash of thinking for themselves. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I was never the type to “go with it”.
So this us when we write to our reps? Make social media post?
From what I can see as of a couple hours ago, they’ve been bombing the south and refugee camps. So far they use this messaging as a way to corral and murder.
I love you lemmy, this is why I’m here tkutkutku
It sucks that those are our choices doesn’t it? Live with a little loneliness but a lot of peace and joy , or not lonely but also harassed and always second, third ,or not even there.
Like you, I’ve left the entire idea behind. I dated quite a bit once I was single and was always disappointed. The pool is just not there, at least where I live.
I am way more happy though, and just made peace with things. None of us gets everything in life, I’ve had lots of fun and love my work. I think that is success at this point.
Cheers, glad any of this helped!
This is such a hard thing to see and then to accept as real and truthful. It hurts horribly, so so painful.
When I think of what she gave in order to be there for him, it hurts even more.
When I finally faced this about my ex ,I cried so hard I couldn’t breath. I couldn’t share the same room with him, it felt like a betrayal to me.
However, to him? It was just the water we all swim in. Heartbreaking for both parties I think.
That he shouldn’t experience love in any depth is also tragic.
Wow, mine did the same thing. Eventually he treated my work as an enemy to compete with, which was detrimental because my work is a part of me, it’s not a place I go to, it’s my craft. Much like being a writer. I was the one who would “not work” if the kids were sick etc, he thought very little of my contributions (which were good) to our bills etc. Like I should just presto magic money into being after not being able to work, he’d act as if I was just not working hard enough.
Even at tax return time, he literally was shocked when I told him we should be sharing the refund and he refused.
Eventually, he lost this war , and I’m happily growing in my field. I really wanted to be married, I didn’t want to end our marriage but I couldn’t face myself with this treatment and he couldn’t understand what I was saying.
I can personally attest to this, from my experience, as well as stories friends have told me. It is much worse with older male doctors, also as women age this type of treatment occurs more often. Also, black women get the worst of it, as many recent studies show. Mortality rates during pregnancy are terrifying.
Gonna just pipe in on this comment because I love this format so much I’ve become a supporter. I don’t have the skill for any complex computer use and this format was super easy to use.
12 years but honestly, I am glad the kerfuffle led me to Lemmy as well as other places I didn’t know about. It seems there are many excellent alternatives who take the culture if their place seriously, which reddit never did. I get much more of a coffee shop discussion feel here.
I lost the ability to comment on insta bc I commented in my representatives page. He is not only an elected representative, he is pastor at Ebenezer Baptist Church in Atl. This is the pulpit MLK led hia movement from. So yes, I am extra mad that he has not even made a statement. I have already done the emails, they don’t care. So I figured a public comment on his insta post would stir something up, it did. Meta told me I’d be stfu for a while.
So once I was able to comment again I stated that meta can fuck right off and I’ll be signing up for telegram. At least journalists can post freely there.