This is purely anecdotal of course, but most of my (male) friends and family members who resist going to therapy aren’t really turned off because of access to a specific service tailored for them or not; they’re “turned off” from it largely because of the social perception of men going to therapy in general.

What I mean to say is, no, I don’t think we need more therapy “tailored” towards men, all (decent) therapists already specifically try to bend their particular therapy-ing style to match their client, regardless of gender. We need to change the perception of what it means to get therapy (at least in my opinion).

Of course they’re expensive think of how much labor it takes to put them in the damn shells!

The edit: omg thank you for awards/upvotes comments just feel like such a self-congratulatory circlejerk, as if the point of the post was to “win” at reddit by getting the most points. The “meta” around reddit itself became less of a discussion and more a game to play to get the most points.

To be clear, I don’t directly hate the “thank you” post edits, I dislike that they’re a symptom of the “meta” of reddit becoming less around the links it aggregates and more around itself, maybe?

I remember being introduced to reddit years ago. It was still new and unknown, there was in-jokes and cringey bacon narwhal shit I don’t even quite remember. It was fun, it was cringe, it wasn’t doomscrolling it was genuine engagement and I really enjoyed it.

Then the longer I spent on it the more hostile it became. Almost every comment thread is full of contrarians looking to argue with you just to get more upvotes and edit: omg thx 4 awards!!11! bullshit, bots “correcting” people’s spelling and telling you how many consonants are in reverse alphabetical order in your username omg so cute! it just became regular, boring old social media.

Then the leadership bullshit kept just getting worse and worse and worse, every time you hear anything about what reddit (as a company) does it’s just more and more hostile to users. The API/app changes and the way it was handled was the last straw. Users don’t hate reddit, reddit hates it’s users, the company has shown nothing but contempt for the users and unpaid moderators for years and I’m just sick of it and that long term animosity coupled with the last set of changes? Yeah, fuck reddit.

The way it was explained to me is that every Lemmy instance is basically a full on “reddit” in that it’s a link aggregator, supports user made communities (ie: subreddits), commenting, etc. You can run Lemmy in private mode and this is exactly how it functions!

On the side of what “federation” is, it’s that all the instances can (theoretically) communicate with each other and share posts and content amongst themselves. So let’s say you make a post on lemmy.world, because my instances “federates” with lemmy.world I am able to see your post and comment on it from my instance. Lemmy.world and my instance periodically update each other with posts our respective users make. Your post lives on Lemmy.world, my comment replying it to lives on mine, and when I post my comment Lemmy.world receives a notice that I’ve done so, which then creates a notice for you that I’ve made the comment blah blah.

The benefit to federation mainly is that it gives a lot of control to users on how the platform functions. Firstly it doesn’t congregate the entire userbase to a single company and/or site. No single instance should remotely be as large as reddit. But because they communicate together, you can approve/deny what instances (as an instance admin) you’re “federating” with. Don’t like the users and moderation policy of another instance? You can “de-federate” with them and block their content from showing up on your instance.

EGG

I’m a big fan of the saying that “time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time” for that exact reason. If you want to do nothing then do nothing, that’s perfectly okay!

What is sad, though, is that I feel like this is saying you get so tired and burnt out from working just to survive that even when you get time off you don’t get to enjoy it or do things you want because you’re just so burnt out from working.

I don’t trust those corn field carnival rides either, those things terrify me even more than the submarine, so speak for yourself lol.

I set up my own instance to mess around with (and what I’m posting from now). The other instances interact with mine just fine and by default. It is certainly possible they could explicitly blacklist your instance, but short of an admin of another instance personally taking umbrage with you I can’t see that happening.

For myself I have set my instance to be private (for me and some friends) and the other instances I “federate” with are done on a whitelist, although you can definitely open up to everything and instead deny specific instances with a blacklist.

I dunno what the fuck Valve put in that thing but a hot Steam Deck has a scent I could pick out of a landfill it’s incredible lol