If you’re neurodivergent it’s never about being “normal” it’s about managing whatever mental illness you have, and being happy and functioning. To strive to be “normal” is setting yourself up for failure. Strive to be happy and to do the things you want to do.
It’s really frustrating when you understand this but nobody else does and everyone in your life expects you to he normal without ever compromising on anything. Trying to explain that a disability is, y’know, disabling, just gets waved away as “making excuses” no matter what. Like believe it or not, I have considered just not forgetting things, but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that.
Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and put your foot down, I know that can be hard, but the people around you need to support you or know that you need support or there will be a limit to how much you interact with them.
When I started treating my ADHD it was with a goal of being able to finish things instead of starting 99 things finishing zero and hating myself that much more.
And since I’ve started treating my ADHD my PTSD got easier to handle, my anxiety got easier to deal with (to the point of nearly a non-issue), and my mental health has improved dramatically due to being able to actually finish things.
If you’re neurodivergent it’s never about being “normal” it’s about managing whatever mental illness you have, and being happy and functioning. To strive to be “normal” is setting yourself up for failure. Strive to be happy and to do the things you want to do.
It’s really frustrating when you understand this but nobody else does and everyone in your life expects you to he normal without ever compromising on anything. Trying to explain that a disability is, y’know, disabling, just gets waved away as “making excuses” no matter what. Like believe it or not, I have considered just not forgetting things, but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that.
Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and put your foot down, I know that can be hard, but the people around you need to support you or know that you need support or there will be a limit to how much you interact with them.
This exactly
When I started treating my ADHD it was with a goal of being able to finish things instead of starting 99 things finishing zero and hating myself that much more.
And since I’ve started treating my ADHD my PTSD got easier to handle, my anxiety got easier to deal with (to the point of nearly a non-issue), and my mental health has improved dramatically due to being able to actually finish things.
10/10, my only complaint is not doing it sooner.
Masking a little bit can be useful, masking too much is shown to be very hurtful and depressing. Embrace yourself!