make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don’t like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware
make sure you ask your trans/non binary friends what they do and don’t like to be called 😊 it can mean a lot, if your unaware
I want to say this with love:
This is narcissistic behavior. Everyone else is also a person. It’s natural to over-do it when you make a change, being gendered correctly is a big boost. People are gonna call you what they consider to be gender neutral shit and you’re gonna have to get used to it or get used to being alone.
As an old person, it’s occurred to me that young people think we dislike something specific about you. Like, sweetie you think this is the first time I’ve seen a man in a skirt (this particular person identifies as a man for the purpose of this comment), or someone with green hair? You’re fucking being annoying in public that’s why we’re mad. None of my business who you fuck I’m trying to eat lunch and you’re singing a song about rimjobs.
What kind of progress are you making towards equality by turning off people with this shit?
If you confuse policing language with activism or outreach you really have misaligned priorities.
You make some decent points. But I think the problem with this post and basically all of the comments is overgeneralization.
Like, right you shouldn’t sing about rimjobs in Denny’s at 10:30am (since you said you’re an old person, I assume this is where and when you have lunch).
The image in this post starts with “but I call everyone dude” which can reasonably be interpreted as a response to someone objecting to being called “dude”. If you insist on calling someone something that they’ve told you they don’t like, then you’re an asshole.
Then the text of this post strays off from that a bit. You don’t need to prejudge people and ask them certain questions based on what those people usually prefer. Go about your life, be excellent to each other, and when someone shares something about themselves with you be considerate about it.
There’s only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.
I agree and the Denny’s thing was hilarious.
I’m not quite that old yet. I do eat lunch at 10:30 though because I’m not organized enough to wake up in time to make breakfast before work.
I would never call someone something they don’t want to be called on purpose. I also wouldn’t get to know them well enough to make that mistake if they made a public fuss out of it the first time I met them.
Like you said, being kind is key. Thanks for the laugh.
“I would never call someone something they don’t want to be called on purpose.” then what in the fuck is even your point here? Why be an asshole to people whose feelings you’d supposedly respect? And fr what the hell is up with your tangent about us singing about rimjobs in Dennys? You sound like a conservative transphobe, if you’re not I’d suggest you stop doing your best impression of one
They probably mean this exact reaction where instead of being reasonable and explaining you don’t like being called that you launch into an immediate tirade.
This isn’t at all the situation you’re describing. It would be unreasonable to freak out on someone for calling everyone dude. I’m freaking out bc this post is full of people who would choose to call people dude even after being asked not to
A lot of the posts specifically say the opposite. “If they asked me to, I would stop”, but there’s also a lot of folks who seem to be blanket upset that anyone would use the word at all without asking first, which is not reasonable.
"there’s also a lot of folks who seem to be blanket upset that anyone would use the word at all without asking first, which is not reasonable. " source?
Not wanting to be called something that induces dysphoria isn’t narcissistic you absolute fucking boomer, fuck off back to the stone age and quit being a transphobic cunt. Literally talking about us like we’re men in skirts looking to be offended bc we don’t wanna be called traditionally masculine things, go fuck yourself
Damn dawg, that’s pretty harsh and pretty inaccurate. You have a lot of anger and I don’t know your situation but maybe you have a good reason for it. Hope your life gets better and you don’t cringe about how off putting you were in the future. Best of luck.
Being a shit ass transphobic boomer immediately followed by concern trolling, you’re really something aren’t you
I don’t like being called boomer.
I like being called dude less and yet look at you go
And yet they never once called you dude. You were just so happy and excited to shit on someone, that you failed to have any compassion and understand what they were actually saying.
I get what they’re saying, they’re one of those fuckers who thinks that trans people are just narcissistic snowflakes who love singing about rimjobs in public and looking for reasons to get offended. I refuse to show compassion towards people who misrepresent me and my people and tell us to be quiet and compliant for their sake.
I know they didn’t call me specifically dude, and I don’t care. They would if I were their friend and asked them not to, that’s the whole fucking issue here. Just don’t call people shit they don’t want to be called, it’s a matter of basic fucking respect and trans people deserve that just like anyone else
Dude chill
Basic respect would be for you to actually read what they said. At no point did they ever say you, or your community did that. Pretty sure they actually said they didn’t care what community you were, just that singing about rimjobs and making a scene is annoying.
In reality, all you’re doing is being one of those people who is an asshole to anyone that doesn’t drop to their feet for you…
Mustard’s point was that they didn’t want someone blowing up on them because they used the wrong word.
I doubt they have any problem with using a person’s requested pronouns, just that it’s possible to make mistakes and they’d rather be politely corrected.
I hope you figure out how to not be a piece of shit to trans people, or barring that just learn how to shut your mouth around us. Not all of us want to be called dude, respect that or gtfo
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Dude is offensive but cunt is okay. I see what world you live in. Lol.
I don’t tend to call people cunts unless they make it clear they are cunts who refuse to show people basic respect like not calling them names they don’t like